84-Year-Old Welcomes Students at Clayburn Middle School for Over a Decade

For more than a decade, 84-year-old Ben Gruber has greeted students at Clayburn Middle School in Abbotsford, B.C. each morning, establishing a unique bond with the children. His presence has become integral to the school’s atmosphere, with students expressing that “it wouldn’t really be Clayburn Middle School without Ben,” as noted by Grade 8 student June Zander.

Gruber’s connection with the students goes beyond simple greetings. Many of them sport small pins featuring his picture, and he is known to sign autographs. A special handshake, affectionately dubbed the “Ben” handshake, has become popular among the students. “I did (the handshake) with one kid, and then the whole school now wants to do it,” Gruber shared, highlighting how he has fostered a sense of community.

Initially, Gruber took on this role to be closer to his grandchildren who attended the school. Reflecting on his early days, he admitted, “I didn’t really know what to expect (of the job), what to do.” Yet, he quickly realized that his attentiveness to the children was key to their affection for him. “How come those children somehow liked me and come to me?” he pondered, attributing his rapport to his genuine care for their well-being.

The impact Gruber has on the students is palpable. Beau Cryer, a student at Clayburn, remarked, “When I was having a bad day too, he came right to me, just trying to get me up for the day which definitely helped for sure.” His efforts have not gone unnoticed by the school staff. Elizabeth Smoes, the vice-principal, noted, “He notices those that are by themselves or who might have a frown on their face, and he will go up to them and engage, and they leave feeling better.”

Gruber finds purpose in his role, stating, “To be a purpose to the kids, to help them to make a good day and cheer them up, and so that in return, gives me pleasure and happiness.” His routine provides him with fulfillment, which he then imparts to the students. Every Friday, he humorously insists, “I insist you take two days off. But do not forget to come back on Monday.” He adds, “If you don’t come back on Monday, I’m going to miss you.” This light-hearted banter leaves students smiling and looking forward to their return.

The sense of gratitude and appreciation for Gruber is echoed by the school community. Smoes described him as a blessing, stating, “There has never been another Ben. He’s a one of a kind.” Many consider him the heart of the school, with his unwavering dedication and kindness contributing to a positive and supportive environment for students.

As Gruber continues to make a difference in the lives of countless children, his story serves as a reminder of the impact one individual can have in fostering joy and connection within a community.